|
SubscriptionsSites I Read
|
|
|
|
| People please.
It's been a while since I updated this here blog thing. That's usually a good sign - it means no one has irritated me enough to where venting in person wasn't enough and I felt the need to vent online for good measure. Well, now someone has. It's a combined effort, really. One is much worse than the other; the lesser is mostly the straw that broke the camel's back. No, I'm not a camel, but thanks to certain other ignorant people, I do have a bad back.
My dormie friends always asked me why I joined a sorority. Greeks are terrible people in their eyes. Maybe not terrible, but certainly artificial. They knew that I didn't fit into that stereotype, so they never understood why I associated with those people. It's kind of funny that now that I'll be leaving, and don't need the cheap room and board anymore, I can publicly state what my reasons are. To the best of my ability, anyway.
I never wanted to join a sorority. When I came to IIT for Camras weekend, I had to stay at the ASA house. Ugh. A bunch of prissy sorority girls...great. They turned out to be ok people, but despite their best attempts to get me to want to join once I started attending IIT, I simply was not interested. Then I came to IIT and recognized a few of the faces of people I had met over Camras weekend, and of course, all of the ASAs (the ones who remembered me anyway) invited me to all the greek events going on during orientation week. Well, I went to Taste of the Quad, mostly for the food, and - to make a long story short - solidified my opposition to sororities. However, at the end of the week, I was personally invited to (and therefore attended) one final event. I hung out with one or two cool people and decided I wanted to join.
As the year went on, I didn't really have much to do with ASA. I lived in the dorms, where most of my friends were, and hung out with those friends. I mostly went over to the ASA house to do laundry and go to meetings. Once I got to know more people, I found more of the stereotypes that I expected to find in sorority girls. And I disliked those people. I would complain about them occasionally, and my friends would ask why I was a member if I didn't like the people. I would typically reply with something to the effect of, "the few people that I do like, I like enough to outweigh my dislike for the others."
That whole first year was a learning experience. I was trying to decide where I fit in at college and whether or not ASA was right for me. Well, my GPA wasn't the best and I figured I wouldn't be getting as much scholarship money my sophomore year. Even if I did, my mom didn't really like the SSV housing cost, and I thought it was only fair to not expect her to pay for something that was more of a luxury than a necessity. And thus the ASA question was answered. Even if I didn't get along with everyone or agree with everything, being a member of ASA would allow me to have much cheaper room and board, even with the membership fees. Score. And so I lived in the house and dealt with the girls and gossip and all the crap that I hated about sororities. I got along with my roommate really well, so I was usually either in my room or out of the house. Oh, and did I mention free laundry?
After my second year, I actually considered terminating membership. I only told one person about it, and she agreed. We were both tired of all the bull shit and didn't really want to be a part of the gossip anymore. So, it was settled, we would both terminate at the end of the academic year. Well, once that time rolled around, she decided that it wasn't so bad after all, and I decided that I still like living for cheap. And so we stayed and never mentioned our plan to anyone.
A lot of the new members are really cool - I get along with them best of all. However, there are still the people who I am not so fond of - mostly the people who are two-faced or just plain ignorant. I was never really directly affected by these people, so outside of the typical getting irritated, talking about how dumb people are, and getting over it routine, I was generally able to overlook these peoples' existence. Until now.
Before getting to the good stuff, I think I will share one more brief anecdote. Last year we extended a bid to a certain person who accepted this bid and was going to become a member. Before this process was complete, however, there was an incident of alleged violence concerning the boyfriend of a current ASA member. The boyfriend was no longer able to stay at his current place of residence, so the ASA member announced to the chapter that he would be sleeping in her room for a little while until he got a place. The soon-to-be member decided that she disagreed with this decision, and rather than talking to the member who it concerned, or even the standards chair, president, or resident advisor, she went to the greek advisor. This of course turned into a big deal, based mostly on the question of why the matter was taken that far rather than being contained within the dealings of the chapter, given its minor nature. The current sister was upset, of course, and felt betrayed by this person who wasn't even a sister yet and was still finding ways to be a back-stabber. The soon-to-be member was called "unsisterly," among other things, and ultimately decided not to join.
Well, let's talk about how unsisterly all of my "sisters" are. I think I can name 2 people who have talked to me directly when they had a problem with me, rather than just talking about it behind my back. Sounds a little deceptive, fake, two-faced, back-stabbing, and unsisterly to me. But, I don't care - I'm really just in it for the cheap housing at this point. Plus, after this semester, which is over in a little more than two weeks, I'm going to live at home for the rest of my college career. I don't need the cheap housing anymore, but some of the fringe benefits might be cool, so I won't terminate. I'll just go on special status for my last year and then graduate as an alumna...sweet. But before I go, someone had to finally do something directly "unsisterly" to me. She reported me to standards for a Greek Week incident involving my beyond-words-disgusting, poorest-exuse-for-a-person ex and myself. Hmm, sounds like it only involves 2 people. Except one of very few people in ASA who I would actually call my sister who was accidently involved, but who I highly doubt would send me to standards over the ordeal. The whole thing happened 3 weeks ago, and I was told today that I have a hearing about it tomorrow. Wow. Something important enough to be taken to standards, but not important enough to be dealt with in a timely manner. Great. Another way for ASA to waste my time. Like it hasn't done enough of that already. Standards policy states that once a form reporting an incident is turned in, a meeting must be held no more than 10 days later. That means that whichever of my "sisters" turned in this complaint form had to have done so a week and a half after the "incident" occurred, at earliest. Sure sounds like a pressing matter to me. Whoever turned in this form had to have actually seen what happened. Only a few people did see, and of those only two cared - one who I would consider to be close to me, given our relationship through the sorority, and another who would put her boyfriend's frat house over ASA any day, and did so multiple times throughout Greek Week. If I had to guess who turned in the form, I'm guessing it would be the latter of the two. What a bitch. Maybe she should just go and live with the guys and act as childish and idiotic as they do - I'm sure she'd fit in much better with that bunch of neanderthals than she does with all of us "women of poise and purpose." If you have a problem with me, talk to me about it. Don't get other people involved with things that aren't only none of their business, but also none of yours. Maybe you should find a better boyfriend who could occupy your time a little better, so you wouldn't have to do things like report incidents over a week after they happen.
But the nice thing is, I'm leaving. I'll go to the stupid meeting just to point out how unprofessional the whole thing is. Maybe if I'm lucky, they'll put me up for termination, and then I wouldn't have to finish my application for special status. Wouldn't that be nice and easy. Some of those younger people who I previously mentioned tell me they'll miss me when I'm gone. I'll miss most of them as well, however me not living in this crap hole filled to the brim with gossip and bullshit will not prevent us from being friends. We can be friends outside of the artificiality that I know bothers all of them as well. And we will all be better for it. In the mean time, I'll live out my two more weeks here, then gladly pack my things to take them home for good.
Home. I pointed out today that ASA is not my home. It never has been and it never will be. It is just a part of school. And for me, school is school, not a home. However you classify it, I get to go to my real home soon. And it still is not soon enough.
As for the straw, I wish that people were less nosey and less picky. Maybe I should just learn to not put so much effort and caring into things that may or may not be appreciated.
P.S. I love my compyd00d. btts ps
| | |
| Callie and I did `NSYNC dancing in the rain. Not just any rain, but this crazy thunderstorm tornado rain. It was magnificent. We win.
| | |
| | You Passed 8th Grade Math |  Congratulations, you got 10/10 correct! |
| You Are Sunshine |  Soothing and calm
You are often held up by others as the ideal
But too much of you, and they'll get burned
You are best known for: your warmth
Your dominant state: connecting |
| Your Love Style is Agape |  You are a caring, kind, and selfless partner.
Unsurprisingly, your love style is the most rare.
You are willing to sacrfice your world for your sweetie.
Except it doesn't really feel like sacrifice to you.
For you, nothing feels better than giving to the one you love. |
| | |
| | Your Linguistic Profile: | | 65% General American English | | 15% Upper Midwestern | | 10% Yankee | | 5% Midwestern | | 0% Dixie |
| | |
| ZOMG!!! Dinner tonight was AMAZING. It was definitely the best meal I've ever eaten at ASA. EVER!! Yum!
| | |
|
